That is not necessarily a problem, so long as her response to the instigation is loving and/or validating. The fact that you have to instigate is only a problem if it is met with rejection on a frequent basis for no good reason. Frankly, I like instigating. It gives me a real rush to come on to my W and have her respond. So is your problem really not the instigation but the feeling of rejection because she is not enthusiastic?
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We clearly are having it FOR me.
How do you know? What in her actions tells you this?
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compare this to YEARS ago when my wife would reach over and BLOW me while I am driving down the interstate.
Are you sure you didn't "instigate" in some way? Isn't a blow job FOR you? Or did you know in some way that she got something out of it?
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The second example is FAR more valuable to me then the first.
Is it because your W giving you a BJ while driving is all about YOU? Is it because when you have instigate all the time, your OWN RESENTMENT is preventing you from getting the validation you need?
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the first she is doing me because she HAS to do me.
No she doesn't, just ask HD and others here whether or not their W's HAVE to do them.
Listen CeMar, I'm not trying to bust your balls. I understand where you are coming from. A W that spontaneously leans over and give you a BJ is a cool thing (never happened to me). A W that clearly wants it from you and instigates often is a cool thing (has only happened a few times for me). But I think you may be making what you have overly negative because you don't have the cool stuff. I'm not saying you shouldn't strive for the cool stuff, but not having it doesn't make everything else bad. KWIM?
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
