Yes it seems our emotions continue to fluctuate and although I want us to remain together, I do not honestly know how to repair the damage without help. If W. is not willing to get help from a C., Pastor, or at least honestly communicate with me, I don't see much chance.
I am waiting and praying she will want to communicate with help or between the two of us. Regardless of the results saying nothing and going about it in the manner she is has to be making her crazy. She can't feel good about sharing our issues with someone else and not at least trying to share them between us also. She knows how I feel about it, and I believe although she cares, she doesn't care enough to make it better right now.
Chances are, just like me she will talk about it and shut me out 1 month longer than I can wait and then the shoe will be on the other foot again. Please understand I don't wish this, but sometimes I think anything short of a mack truck driving through the bedroom will not wake her up.
When I say wake up, I am referring to facing her feelings of anger and sadness, instead of pretending one day she is fine and the next not so good. I just worry if she doesn't acknowledge her anger in a more constructive manner, it will eat at her, and we will probably end up a lousy divorced couple instead of worst case scenario friends.
Anyway thanks for your thoughts and questions all.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
