OM, MLC and the hits keep coming........Pt 4

[saffie]

I just don't know if I can really forgive and forget, it just hurts too much and I know I will bring it up in the future, regardless how hard I try to block it out. How can you trust someone again, what if OM comes back into the picture, will she run back to him..........................I think my brain is going to explode

Whatever happens these feelings will be there. My H didn't string me along once he told me about the A. OW was out of picture within a week but I STLL have all the emotions you mention above and that is a whole year after H has totally recommitted. The trouble is that to be able to experience a full loving relationship you also have to be able to lay yourself open to all the pain that goes along with it.

I will NEVER be able to trust my H again the way I used to and I really grieve for that. But we have all learnt a lot along the way and are hopefully better people for it. If you forget what has happened you haven't learnt from it. I really, really wanted to forget - have even considered hypnosis to help me forget, but then I would probably go and make the same mistakes again if I forget. Time will help. My H would never go back to OW because now he can see her for the conniving b!tCH she was. I've just got to make sure that the communication channels between us are so good that he doesn't get involved with another woman. And the subject does come up again and again but as time goes by it is beginning to come up in more of a jokey way than an anger way.

Just a few thoughts for you.

Saffie