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I fell asleep, so didn't see any, but will try again tonight. They did say last night was the best time. Oh well! It was a long day yesterday, and I am just very tired.

I wish my H didn't have to work for the company he's at now, and the visa for the new one would come through quickly. He emailed me that he had arrived (very remote area), and says there is no phone out, no cell service, and the accommodation is just awful. I feel so bad for him. I said that perhaps he should just resign now, and be done with it. Whatever he decides, he has my support, as always.

My goal, for now, is that by the end of this year, we have sorted through my H's work sitch, the house is ready for sale (if necessary), and that life is a little more settled. Can only hope, pray, but plan too. Yeah, looking for those rainbows. \:\)


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Lyrics of a song by Great Big Sea that is so true to our lives and how we should try and deal with our sitches. \:\)

Let It Go
Released February 2004
(written by Doyle/Sampson/Daly)

Hey man, you don‘t know what you‘re missing
You count your curses and forget about the blessings
Don‘t you think you should learn a little lesson
What are you waiting for?

Hey man, what makes you so special
Can‘t seem to find the angels for the devils
Don‘t you think that if you learned to love a little
You‘d live a whole lot more

Chorus
Let it Go Let it Go
This is smaller than you know
No bigger than a pebble lying on a gravel road
Let it Go Let it Go
Got to leave it all behind you
Give the sun a chance to find you
Let it Go

Lift you head, there‘s no time for crying
You made your bed but don‘t think its fit to lie in
Wasted on the ground when you know you should be flying
What are you waiting for?

Bridge
How can a man not see
It seems so clear to me
You‘ve just got to live and learn
Smile at the simple stuff
This road ain‘t long enough
To miss a single turn


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Thanks for typing and sharing these lyrics. It certainly is pertinent to those of us in Piecing. Even with the progress I've made in my situation, I still dwell too much on the problems, and need to slow down and enjoy the R.

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A very good perspective. I needed that today.

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Yeah, I liked the words of this song ... words to try and live by, indeed! Still learning the lesson, myself. Love the band's other music too. \:\)


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Just wanted to thank you for fighting my corner in the last few days.


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I just says it as I sees it. And, you are very welcome. Anyway, we moms of teen girls have to stick together, 'eh!?


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So, my H has been a lot calmer these past couple of days. He says he's going to finish out the two weeks at this remote assignment. Then, once he has received the visa for the new job, resign (has to give 1 month notice), and just let it go (he was going to give the CEO a piece of his mind, but I didn't see the point, and told him it wouldn't make a difference in how they treat their staff, so why bother). I wonder if my contribution helped? Maybe, my saying to just resign now, helped him realise that I support him, and care about his wellbeing. I also suggested he let it go, and not stress out too much because by the end of September, hopefully, he won't be working for them. So, the end is in sight, jobwise. I also thanked him for having to put up with this in order to support us, his family.

I have been a little down this week ... not sleeping well, then getting up late, not being able to find the motivation to do my GAL goals. I feel like I'm moving through water. Just tired of all the peripheral stressors in my life right now ... our lack of financial planning, the home business H started and some issues there, H's job problems, and so on. Life, I know, but lately it's been getting to me. I don't like lose threads, and like to get things sorted out, and not just hanging.

So, there have been some positives, but I am feeling like I'm living an anticlimax ... not sure why, but will just keep pushing forward. Maybe, just running out of steam.

Okay, vent over.


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Just keep looking at the positive momentum. Look back at where you started and where you are at. Perhaps this is not the path we anticapated, but it is moving forward.

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I've been sluggish lately too...it's so frustrating, and I'm trying hard to break free, but it's HARD!

I'm glad you have an idea of what will happen with H's current job. Kudos for being supportive of him BeingMe.

Here's to getting the loose threads tied up!


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