Madonna/Whore Complex (part 7)

[Heywyre]

To tell him that you are fed up and ready to throw in the towel is the WORST thing you can do.

I know this is not a good thing to say to him but, at the same time, it is how I am feeling. But, instead of saying that, I have on numerous occasions (too many to count) that one of the many reasons I have stayed in this R is because I don't want to be the next one of his list of statistics that abandoned him. That has been the story of his life since day one (having been given up for adoption and then not bonding with his adoptive mother - ST feels this is where it ALL stems from). That coupled with a handful of very bad relationships and what do you have? My H

I believe in our marriage and I feel too many people give up and don't fight for what they believe in. They are all too willing to accept the "better" but not the "worst" - those are the vows I took 18 years ago and I still feel as strong about them today as I did then. However, there is only so long someone can live without the physical and emotional connection which is also part of the vows - is it not? (to love and to cherish)