HW "I am who I am, why can't you just accept that"
Cobra Yep, I've heard that too, and its all a deflection. The tactic is a sort of reverse guilt thing... I respect you and accept you for who you are, so do the same for me. It casts you person in the role of trying to change and control him. Being the functional, differentiated beings we have become on this board, we immediately realize our "error" and back off. The truth is that we have only been duped.
FYI, that is where I am with BB, that is what she is saying. "I am who I am, why can't you just accept that" Sorry it doesn't float my boat.
HW, if your H is willing to go to the new therapist, how about taking a break from his side of your M?
The Byron Katie page (www.thework.com) things help. Also search Youtube.com for videos by Byron Katie.
