I have had both male and female friends have affairs and I think that it does really boil down to attention.
I think it is really hard (fro ridiculous and even more ridiculous reasons) to tell someone...hey...I need more attention.We want to say it in a way that doesn't make us seem (god-forbid)needy and we don't necessarily want them to feel bad and I think that our society or upbringings or whatever makes us feel like we SHOULDN'T be needy,persay.
Like...I want someone to whip out there wallet whenever we go out...not because I can't pay and not because I won't fight for the bill but just to know that someone can provide for me...but how do you say that without sounded like June Cleaver. So...then you let it stew and think that they don't even KNOW you and they probably never knew you and....
get my drift?
we don't want to sound dumbd so we tend to gloss over our own little idiosyncracies (how the crap do you spell that...sorry...phonetic it out)
we tuck it all in and day after day of tucking it in, well it piles up and then it overflows and then we are susceptible to the first person who ponies up on one of our ticks.....
