Ditto Lil’s comments, but believe it or not, your H has made progress. The very fact that the ST said that to your H puts the focus clearly on him. Up to this point, your H may have been willing to go to counseling as long as he saw some need for change in you. Now that excuse has run out and he stands alone. Of course he will feel exposed, alone and angry. It will feel safer for him to go back into his cave.
I think this is where your boundaries need to be firm. Don’t let him do that. Keep the matter alive, but in a supportive, compassionate way. The last thing you want to do is cause him to shut down because he feels his ego has been assaulted. I think breaking through the barrier of self confrontation can be a bigger task for a man than a woman (well, most women).
It will take awhile for him to do this. He will want to reconnect with you to re-enmesh and get some comfort. Then he can push forward a little, get scared and pull back. Just like an apprehensive kid, which he is. It will also look to you like nothing is happening, but under the surface he will be going through a lot of turmoil. He just won’t let you see it. So I wouldn’t be so discourage yet.
