I loved Chica's Mars/Venus thread and so in that spirit, I would like to generate another discussion and get some feedback.
Those of you who follow sports may have heard of Pat Summitt, UT Women's Basketball Coach. Winningest coach in women's college basketball, leads all college coaches in trips to the Final Four, second only to Wooden in National Championships.
This morning it was announced that she has filed for divorce from her husband of 27 years, RB Summitt. Those of us who are Vol fans have marvelled at this marriage over the years, how this good looking man appeared so supportive and proud of this woman, how he adored her, how he admired from afar as she stood in the limelight, but always there, always cheering, always rooting for her.
Rumors in Knoxvegas are flying, some say she is having an affair, some say he did first.
So I pose the question to you, as the friend who emailed this news this morning asked me, why can't people stop before they go off the cliff?
Why is it easier to have an affair than to tell your spouse of 27 years that your needs are not being met in the marriage?
Why is the affair the easier choice?
And within this subject, someone said on the Mars/Venus thread that women check out of the marriage, decide they are through, and then have the affair. Men have the affair and then decide that they are through with the marriage.
I thought that was consistent with what I observed back in the old days when I did divorce work. The women clients who came to me were done but rarely involved with someone else. The men were not motivated to be divorced unless there was someone else.
So folks, what say you, why is an affair the path of least resistance?
