Bit of an update on me: wife haggled with me over division of furniture yesterday. wants to get "her half" moved over to her mother's house. PLUS she wants me to pay her money to half-finance new beds for the kids, since I'm getting to keep the old ones. sheesh.
She was sad, and cried a bit. said it was "tough seeing us like this". Trouble is, she's put on an act so many times before, completely convincingly, it's almost impossible to tell when she's being sincere now.
it started with me first laying into her for not trying to work on our marriage for the past 4 YEARS (6, really), after her opening with how i should "do what's right" and give her money to set up her new place. She went defensive, although did actually acknowlege that was mostly the case. I kinda emotionally shut down then , and went into business mode, probably with a bit of a nasty look on my face.
THAT's when she showed her "soft" side, and "this is hard" kinda stuff. I said it didnt have to be this way. She said she "didnt see any other way". I replied that she hadnt really LOOKED. talked a bit about our situation. We both cried a bit. I even gave her a kiss, which she sat still for (no kiss back). only the second one since june 2006.
She claimed she's going to "do some thinking" over the next few days. Which sounds really positive... until matched with the last times she's said she would "do some thinking". Absolutely nothing came of those; i think those times were purely "i'll get back to you: lets do lunch sometime" kinda things.
She doesn't usually cry. That makes things seem kinda different. Although the last time I remember her doing so... was the night she decided to move out. The tears didn't particularly mean anything positive for us THAT time.
Maybe this time is different. I'd like to think so. But I'm gonna try to avoid getting on an emotional rollercoaster about it.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
