GGB:

Thank God your answer wasn't b). \:\) And I don't know that I was expecting it to be a), so a ^5 to you for surprising me. Determination like that, the kind that takes a woman a bit by surprise, is quite attractive. Not to the point that you mow her over in a disrespectful way... but, in the same way that Hairdog is moving forward with his concert trip.

Lesson 1. When you have decided to take back control of your own purpose and life, you need to seriously begin to think about what that is going to feel like. Imagine for a moment that your wife has been steering the ship for some time now, and you've let her, if for no other reason than to keep the peace...

When you take charge of the wheel again... odds are she isn't going to like it too much. You have got to be prepared for her resistance, and it's probably going to be very uncomfortable for you. HOW are you going to deal with that discomfort?

The 'surprising' determination you've shown here... and remaining calm and consistent (personal boundary)... is something you might want to keep in mind. Really understand how it feels inside of you... so that if you move out of this state... you will know.

Lesson 2. Now that you HAVE decided to take this road... what is your new purpose and direction? You don't have to tell me, I don't need to know... but YOU do. As simple as it may sound, that has got to be the hardest life question in the book, and women and men will answer it differently. It's probably going to take some time to answer. You may refine it a little, here and there, especially as you begin to learn things about yourself. But you have to commit to it, even if it's WRONG. The 'act of' committing, that action step, committing to your purpose, over and over again, is how you initially practice.

Make any sense to you?

And Chrome, Lou... anyone... when have we EVER invited each other to participate in a thread here...???? I'm really hoping that others pipe in their thoughts on this as well.

Corri