The concert was awesome last night - we saw Def Leopard - those guys are amazing - they have to be in their late 40's -early 50's by now - and they still can rock like nobody's business.
Talked w/my friends alot about the sitch last night. Almost all of them say at this point that I have done everything I could and that they can't believe I have lasted this long. And then I come on this board & see how long everyone else has been in limbo-land and it makes my 2mos look like nothing! I know that they're just looking out for my best interest, but they are all kinda saying at this point that I should just move on. While I feel that I am nearing that point, I am not there yet & while I am trying to think of what is best for "me", I still am married and trying to think of what is best for "us".
Something that is really still getting to me that I just need to let go is our commuting home situation. Before Dday, we would generally take the same train home together & for the most part, now we have been taking different ones. But when he does happen to be on the same train - he is purposely sitting in a different car from me? Then we each get into our seperate cars and drive to our home and then we make dinner together? WTF is up with that? To me, it just seems childish. I have made it more than clear to him that I am trying to make this situation as comfortable as possible for him. I don't pressure or bug him with questions, I don't bring up R talk now unless he wants to, and I just try to make a few minutes of small chit-chat each day.
I brought it up to him when we got home casually with "so where you sitting on the train these days?". And he responded "Any car". I just felt like it is such an awkward thing that I did not want to question him about it, but I wanted to make sure that it was at least brought up to be known that it is awkward. Opinions anyone?
