Jon! Can't you disconnect her from the net for a while?? You know like changing internetaccounts or repair or something...LOL thinking about the look on her face and having to cope as a grown up for once. You know your wife best... Don't tell her this but show it!!! Cook her favourite food, sublety remind her of little things you did together, back her up on an issue.. I would get out my pen and paper and write down stuff about her personally and the two of you together. (actually I did...) Things like i mentioned above...her favourite foods and beverages, movies she likes, the clothes she likes on YOU, etc. and be subtle about it when you rent the movie, cook the food, talk about things you are sure you both agree upon etc.
About family and friends.... I find it very difficult to explain to people what MLC is all about, let alone what you are standing for. Everyone keeps getting back to 'well he IS living with OW...'. But they are supportive of me maybe because I handpicked the people I told about us. Yesterday I had a rough day. I tried to explain to my friend that it is positives I need and not the realitychecks. These are there ALL the time and it still aches. I know the reality because I live this reality everyday...but the positives keep me going.
I have a handfull of people I talk to and they are family and friends. Others I just don't tell. Among the few people who know is my uncle who told me yesterday 'surely I was moving on...!?' I didn't answer just said I lived my live and he asked again and told me his thoughts or rather pushed it upon me. I know he means well so I let it slide but some days are more dificult than others to do this.
My babybrother who is getting married this month wrote my maiden name on the invitation and did not invite my DH (or our DS 3). I wrote him an email making a joke out of it saying he 'forgot' my men and yes we would attend. (still not sure if DH will come but I surely did not tell him about the invitation...) I made a decision for myself that if he replied that DH was not welcome I would stand for my marriage and not attend his wedding. I never received a reply so we will go.
Mmmh, can't remember the other questions JJ asked. Anyway i would really like it if this BB starts having these discussions with moderators some more. It really helps and motivates...!!! (For instance KLA...)
