Its funny you say this b/c I was just thinking along there same lines. My H use to never talk about his feelings, therefore I never knew he was not happy. Now he throws it all at me and how resentful he feels. He can't seem to get past that. The more he complains , the less attractive he is to me. Sometimes I wish he would just shut it up b/c I am trying to fix the things he complains about but he is too busy compaining he cant see that.