My thread locked up but thank you all for the advice. I do know I opened myself up a little bit but I feel it was only in a small way. I don't feel hurt, I don't feel upset, I really feel back to my normal self after having done it.
H will not respond to the letter or even comment on it and that is fine. I just felt I had to do it. Maybe he will watch who he talks to now lol.
Althea ~ You have a very good point on them running from one relationship to the next. I will remember that!!!
Honestly you guys I don't feel he will ever come home. I am sure at times he has moments he wishes he didn't screw everything up and he just happened to mention it to the wrong person. Writing the letter helps me give it closure because if I didn't write the letter I would be wondering and questioning and worrying. Now that I have the letter out of the way I can keep going. He knows I know he said it....if he wanted to act on it he would.
I don't need him too. And truthfully I lean more towards not wanting him back now. The main reason I think I would is because he is my history and we have children together. Not because I WANT him back.
Christy M: 31 H: 33 Married ~ 13 years S12 S8 Bomb 10/05 supposedly ended A 2nd bomb 12/30/05 Separated 01/06 I filed 6/12/07 ~ new ow 3wks after moving out http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1094955&page=0#Post1094955