Is BB the kind of person that likes to be good at something immediately otherwise she won't try?
When I first started out on this sexuality road, I didn't O at all. I just went through the motions and wondered what all the fuss was about. Then one day I met a guy and dated him and ended up in bed and somehow or other he rocked my world. It was only that one time with him as he wasn't a long time BF but he clued me in to the fact that it can be a pretty wild ride and that all my equipment was in perfect working order (I will be eternally grateful to him). Then I dated a few more guys but no dice. Then I met xBF and he just wouldn't give up. We would have sex and I wouldn't O, so next time he would try something different, and when that didn't work he would try something else. But I was more than happy to experiment along with him. I wasn't just thinking hey ho I'm obviously not someone that finds sex all that much fun I don't know why he's bothering. And sure enough after a few times we started to get the hang of it and anyway you've heard enough details about how it's been for me.
But what I'm trying to say is that if BB is the kind of person who likes to get things right first time. If she likes to cook a recipe and for it to turn out right, and not have to tweak it and play around with it (like Corri was saying on her thread) then maybe she just sees sex as an area of failure for her. She knows (she must have read Cosmo a couple of times) so she knows that there are women out there having the time of their lives in the bedroom, so acting like ALL woman just want to be held is her saying "I'm rubbish at this and I don't really want to bother about it"
While I can't have multiple "O's" at one time, sometimes when I have one, I want another one in a couple of hours.
See right here you have the capacity to rock her world if she would let you. Back in the days when xBF would work so hard to get my mojo working I recall a time when we had been going at it all afternoon and nothing was happening for me. It was like almost, almost but nothing and I was starting to get a bit sore. So in the end he just finished and I went and had a bath. Well after an hour of soaking in the tub I came back to the bedroom to find him ready and waiting for me AGAIN. So we started fooling around again and within about 5 minutes KERCHINGGGG jackpot and there was me with a grin on my face that wouldn't wipe off for about a week.
So what I'm saying here is sometimes it can take a little time to get a woman's engine running but having warmed the engine up a little it really is a bit of a shame to let it go cold again. Which is why, Lou, you do need to be a bit more of a pirate sometimes and not let her deflections grind you down.
Can you tell I'm determined to get you off that kiddy ride and onto the roller-coaster
No wonder BB says she shouldn't have to bother at her age, she probably feels damn silly as a mature adult sitting on that kiddy ride.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
