Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

Since I'm having some trouble dealing with my W when we have contact I thought I'd write some notes to remind me of what I need to concentrate on for my situation. Please feel free to correct me or make additions:

- stop calling W unless necessary for finances, etc. Give her space! Don't try to make excuses to call her.

- when W comes over or calls try to decline at least some meetings and try to end meetings/conversations before she ends them

- when speaking with W act cool, calm, and collected with a PMA.

- when W makes hurtful negative comments about relationship ignore them, do not panic and ask what's wrong or follow her, let her go, it's only a temporary feeling on her part

- do not talk about relationship with W and if she brings it up just listen

- if W is complaining to me about pain in her life from decisions she has made relating to our situation, do not offer help, just listen

- do not ask W questions about her plans, where she has been, or about OM

- stop snooping! You are only hurting yourself and risking any chances with W if she finds out

- continue working on yourself, GAL, and patience, patience, patience

- if W makes positive comments about your relationship, do not overreact or take it too seriously until it happens repeatedly

- if W makes comments regarding her future life plans that don't include you, don't panic or ask why, just listen

Svejk