It's a fine line between detached/moved on and cold, I think, and it doesn't come easy to me. I believe the detachment is coming honestly to me, so that should help.
This is something I've been thinking about, too. It sounds like you handled it fine, and as you say, you've been doing this long enough that some change is good. As you're feeling detached, you're certainly going to show detachment, so it sounds like your actions are coming from the place you are now. It's hard to judge how it will be perceived, of course, but acting without feeling angry or bitter should help avoid coming across as cold.
Originally Posted By: Nomopo
it really started to hit me how my R with my kids is going to change, no matter how much I do and how hard I try to be in their lives
Undoubtedly the toughest thing of all. Even if you end up divorced, all the work you're doing (and your wife, even if she's not working on saving your M) to make your R better will help smooth the path for them. And that's worth a lot.
Take care. You're getting some results, and refocusing can only help. I'll look forward to reading your new goals/strategies.
