Nomopo's Sitch - Patience, Patience, Patience

[NotAgainPlease]

Nomo Nomo,

I wish I could be half as good as you about giving good advise. I have been reading up on you.

First I want to tell you I feel you on the kids. It just sucks!! what happend to them.

Keep it up. She notices. I know it is scarey as hell to go out in the world. Here's what my girlfriends tell me. He/She is Mr/Mrs Today not Mr/Mrs Forever! Your W will have no idea what you are doing if you go out. They like we do will imagine the worst. My H up until he moved back in would tell me daily to find someone else. He said he really didn't want me to but I think it made him feel better and it was also his way of investigating! In order not to lie I would just say I didn't want to talk to him about my dating.
Get out there and just pretend! Go out with a buddy. Have fun and she"s not going to know. Like my sitch, just when you give up they come back. I do have to say it is very subtle you have to really keep your ears and eyes open for the smallest clues.
In my case I wasn't always nice.

Whenm I decided I was done trying for a while I really wasn't that nice or accomidating. He was a little nicer when I was distant. I know you can do it just one thing at a time and see. You have always been so nice to your W try changing??

Good luck!
S