It may be different for others, but my wakeup call came in my darkest hour. I hit absolute rock bottom and suddenly my OM was nowhere around. Mine was an even bigger system shock, though, because I went to jail for stupidity. Sitting alone for a few weeks makes you think pretty hard about how you got to this awful place. And yeah, it really was that fast. About the time I was being fingerprinted and photographed I wanted my husband like a small child wants their mommy. And from there on out it was no looking back.

Restoring really takes a lot. i had to be willing to submit to extreme scrutiny for awhile before my husband trusted me again, even with simple things. I had to be willing to be vulnerable and trust him even though he didn't trust me.

The grass may be greener, but then again, it may also be astroturf.
~Amy C Brown