AKFLY- I am sorry you are here. I wish I had an answer for you on the birthday. My 15th anniversary is in less than a month - we were going on a second honeymoon that H bought for me - right now I don't think that I will be acknowledging it. But my stich is a little different - I got the same speeches you did, but he was out of the house a month later. I will follow your post to see what others say...
Congratulations on keeping your cool. It is hard to do! Keep it up!
I bought the DR book and it has become my bible. The main thing that I have learned is that I need to DB for me and my sanity. If it saves my marriage - that is a bonus...but the advice is good for me now.
