Heimlich, I continue to be amazed at the similarities of our WAW's and of our intitial cluelessness about how to handle their feelings.
In case OT did not make it clear enough, DO NOT engage in any R talk. I mean it, NONE. If she starts talking about the R (without first recommitting to the M) just validate like crazy and do not offer your perspective AT ALL!!! If you even use the word "I" other than to say "I understand" or "I can see how you felt that way", you are doing nothing to help your sitch!!
You can do this, really! If you really want to understand how to communicate with your W, there are lots of good books/courses out there. I took a listening skills class and it was a huge eye opener. I actually took it for work, but helped a ton at home too!
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
