ROOT again, all very good points. Yes, I know that I need to let him figure this out on his own, let him figure out where the happiness is. I know he thinks happiness is with her, but I can also feel when he is here that he feels happiness here again, he is just nowhere wanting to make that leap of faith. He is still so deep in the fog and the addiction of her.
I know I need to not condemn, blame, are be angry, and no more guilt. Honestly this last texting issue was the first time I faultered on that in a long time.
I am trying to be his friend, trying to doing alot of no contact, only contacting or replying if it is about the kids or the finances. I am always very cheerful around him, and make sure to pay lots of attention to him when he talks (one of his big emotional needs I never met before).
I have been reading alot over at marriage builders about plan A and plan B, and going to try to figure out where exactly I want to go. I think I may need to revisit some things and do some plan A sort of actions, be more obvious about my 180's etc, and work a bit more on them.
