Aw thanks Hairy - there you go being a nice guy again.
Do I sound desperate - shyit! I think it is just pure garden variety unrequited horniness. It strikes sometimes, and at least I am in a better place than some of you guys here. You said you hadn't got any since May - that sucks. I am learning to live with the fact that a) my H is less horny less often than me and b) he ain't never gonna be no pirate. On the plus side he is a sweetheart, he works his cotton socks off earning a good living for us and he is up for some nookie a couple of times a week so no I'm not complaining.
I am still really curious about your 2nd job. The only reason being I have recently added another string to my own bow which I am quite excited about but also a little shy of talking about.
Here's a cyber-hug back for you (((Hairdog)))
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
A couple times a week and more than 5 to 7 "O's". If that was my situation, I would never have found this site.
But, I do understand Fran's frustrations. When you want to go on a pirate ride at the carnival, the single kiddy ride on the sidewalk at the shopping center, that only jiggles a little bit, is very disappointing.
Fran I have recently added another string to my own bow which I am quite excited about but also a little shy of talking about. SHY??? That got my attention. Perhaps playing a lady Pirate on stage????
A couple times a week and more than 5 to 7 "O's". If that was my situation, I would never have found this site.
LOL. I don't get to O seven times every time Lou, that is mainly just when it isn't happening quickly for my H. And in it's way it can be equally frustrating, because I DO start to feel guilty. It's kind of weird we can be going at it good and I will O and then realise he's not done so we keep going and I O again, and he's still not done. Then it can start to get like I never O'd at all in that I really really need to go again so I will go for it again hoping also that me being so hot and horny will make him feel that way too, but it doesn't seem to work that way and I sometimes wonder if he goes into jealous mode - "hey how come she's having all the fun".
Then there are the times when all goes well and we both pop at the same time and I end up thinking - what about the other 6? And then I'm horny all day like I didn't get ANY.
But, I do understand Fran's frustrations. When you want to go on a pirate ride at the carnival, the single kiddy ride on the sidewalk at the shopping center, that only jiggles a little bit, is very disappointing.
You've hit the mark there!
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
Fran LOL. I don't get to O seven times every time Lou, I wouldn't expect it to happen every time. I bet there times when you don't O.
just when it isn't happening quickly for my H. And in it's way it can be equally frustrating, because I DO start to feel guilty I understand that too. There is a male version of that and sometimes I have it.
It's kind of weird we can be going at it good and I will O and then realize he's not done so we keep going and I O again, and he's still not done. Then it can start to get like I never O'd at all in that I really, really need to go again so I will go for it again hoping also that me being so hot and horny will make him feel that way too.. I can understand that too Fran.
While I can't have multiple "O's" at one time, sometimes when I have one, I want another one in a couple of hours.
So much for the "once he has one it should do him for a long time" theory.
I sometimes wonder if he goes into jealous mode - "hey how come she's having all the fun". That is a flip side of what goes through my mind.
I think, why doesn't some of my excitement rub off on BB? I even ask if there is any thing, large or small I can do to make it more fun/pleasurable for BB. She either tells me nothing, she doesn't know or to keep rubbing her back, but that puts her to sleep.
Some people were discussing things about wanting to be the opposite gender. At times when I am having a good time and BB is mostly there, I want her to be me for a half hour, and experience the excitement/thrill/passion I feel.
I don't know if that ties in with your "hey how come she's having all the fun" but I suspect it is a version of it.
Then there are the times when all goes well and we both pop at the same time and I end up thinking - what about the other 6? And then I'm horny all day like I didn't get ANY. OK, that is something I can understand but never thought too much about it IRL. The lets do it again in a couple hours is where I tended to stop because any more isn't something BB was willing to do.
2X a day we did. I think we tried 3X one day on the honeymoon. As far as BB having more than 1 "O" in a week, it happened a couple of times, I think. I could tell she was feeling good most of the time early in the M. It feels like I have been on the kiddy ride since 1981.
I didn't really expect you to give me such a long and considered reply to what I though was me being just a tad whiny and ungrateful. It is interesting to hear that others feel the same way. Yes it would be fun to swap genders just to see. I have talked to my H in the past about the whole multi-orgasm thing and how it makes him feel and he has said that it makes him feel a bit jealous but also happy that he can do that kind of thing to me. It is very hard to describe what really goes on but I think the idea of a rollercoaster ride is about the closest I can get. You strap yourself in and off you go and the first little loop is pretty exciting and then the car keeps rattling along and you see another loop coming up and this ones looks better than the first - whee! Then round the corner and here comes the really big one - oh wow! Then after that there's a couple more little loops again just to bring you down gently from the high of the big one. The complete package from end to end is what you really want and there is a definite difference in feel to the "peak experience" and you know when you've had it. And when that all works properly and you get the last one you know it is the last one and you feel properly satisfied, with a grin that won't wipe itself off your face for the rest of the day.
So yeah the kiddy ride just doesn't cut it.
And as for not o'ing sometimes - yeah but not often. It used to be like that when I was in my 20s but then I guess I just got better and better at understanding what worked for me and what didn't so it has gone from say a 66% to 99% success rate. I guess if I was like BB and it was hard work always then I would most likely not get in the mood much. I can see that there would be little payoff and a lot of effort. I certainly do remember times before I really understood what worked when it all just seemed like so much jigging about and rubbing for not alot.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
Fran I didn't really expect you to give me such a long and considered reply to what I though was me being just a tad whiny and ungrateful. Hay, I can relate to most of what you feel.
It is somewhat helpful for me to read not all/most women just want to be held like I was told way too many times.
