I truly believe the only way to 'right this wrong' is to be more of a challenge. When we were first dating, I did ALL the wrong things. He has never, ever had to wonder if I would be available/there for him.
He wants to feel completely separated and says he does not want to 'date' me- he also believes that if he takes me out on X amount of 'dates' he will get sex (which isn't true, and I tried to tell him that wasn't the case, but he doesn't believe me.) He is totally cocky, believing that he could talk me into anything if he really wanted to. (you know, he 'doesn't want to lead me on'.) And now, he is acting "honorable" and trying to keep himself in check. (Because, after all, he doesn't think *I* will keep him in check.) [The last couple statements are from my head, not his lips.]
I saw my counselor this morning and she just kept shaking her head, because he doesn't make sense. When he was seeing her, they would talk the whole time about all the good things about me and the marriage and it would end with him saying "I don't know what my problem is."
At this point, the "go out on a date issue" is really not an issue. I don't think he *will* ask me out on a date. I guess I will cross that bridge if it comes to that.
Let's say he *does* eventually call and ask me out-- do I say "Are you dating anyone else?"
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
