Doing okay.... focusing a lot on my new puppy!!! Had some strange things OW things happen (big story) which I won't go into here, but very odd coincidences. They don't effect my marriage directly... but it still upsets me and just proves what an unbelievable sleezebag OW was. Grrrrr!
Cali,
Have a couple more things to add.... don't say the word wife again. Instead apologize for how things have been and tell him for the children's sake you really want to be friends, it has been hard, but you share this long history so it's important to be FRIENDS and then bring in, very carefully, the concept that you are "best friends." Regardless of what happens, the history we share, I think in time, once the dust settles we can still be BEST friends.... for the kids sake.... By making him your friend and not your husband he can start seeing you more as an ally then an advisary.
Crumb, one more thing I wanted to add, but forgot....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
