Which is why I wonder if you're angry and (it feels) distrustful of my sincerity.
I'm way past the anger stage and I'm not the type to project that on to a bystander anyway. I'm not distrustful of your sincerity at all. I believe that you believe what your saying.
Originally Posted By: prodigalwife
There is no set pattern once the affair ends.
That's true, but technically, your affair has not ended. Your still emotionally involved with this guy.
Originally Posted By: prodigalwife
My problems resulted from not dealing with reality; reality means admitting what happened and dealing with the aftermath.
Reality - Your having an affair with this guy, you realize he's not for you. You now believe your H is the only man for you.
Aftermath - Tell the OM you made a mistake, he's not for you and you want him to leave you alone so you can concentrate on repairing your marriage.
Originally Posted By: prodigalwife
Letting him call me is a constant dose of reality.
Letting him call you is a constant reminder of your affair and your affection for him.
Originally Posted By: prodigalwife
Don't paint all women who had an affair with the same brush.
I'm not judging here, just making an observation from the LBS's perspective.
Originally Posted By: prodigalwife
I love my husband, I'm glad he stood by me through this...learning experience. I wouldn't trade his love and trust for any man's affection, especially one who already proved his lack of character.
Good for you!!! If you do love your H, then you need to break it off with this OM cold turkey because I can tell you right now it still causes your H pain even if he doesn't show it.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
