From the little I have read about you, I think you would rather BE the stranger? Just a guess, I don't know you
Hmmm...you might be right, but if I wanted to BE the stranger, I might be seeking validation. It's all quite confusing.
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So... what if you said... "Okay, surprise me," and he, in all seriousness, said... "BOO!!" And then he left, thinking, 'gee, what a great opportunity to have sex with a stranger, and all she wanted me to do was 'surprise' her.
Okay, how 'bout if I said "Do me like I ain't ever been done before, stranger-man." Of course, the problem is how's the stranger supposed to know how I ain't been done before? Unfortunate fantasy paradox.
Anyway, the fact that I am thinking of NG as my lover rather than my BF means that I do feel free to ask for whatever I want sexually. One thing I was thinking was that I might HAVE to tie him down in order to take advantage of him sexually because he keeps flipping me. It's like if there's a mountain in your backyard, sooner or later you're going to HAVE to climb it whether you WANT to or not. Or, I suppose I could pretend like I have the sexual soul of a demure princess rather than that of Dennis the Menace but, obviously, that would be an exercise in validation seeking.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
