PW, I'm wondering what generally serves as a wake-up call for the WAS. In your case, you realized that the OP lacked the commitment to be there for you in a time of need. Was it truly that abrupt for you? At what point did you start to turn back to the M? I assume there was a period of ambivalence for a long time.
I like your description of putting the M into knots that had to be untied. It's also helpful to hear that there is a transition process before there is connection and intimacy in the R again.
My situation in the Piecing forum describes a turn towards connection and intimacy. You seem to be saying that even though there is increased platonic connection, there are still issues of trust, and restoring intimacy and sexuality.
You mention that the most important thing a LBS can do while waiting is to not inflict harm on the R. I'm trying to increase personal power as a person, and am not pursuing my W.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
