All that said, I think I could make a pretty good case for a sex life that was nothing more than mutual MB being a Very Good Thing. I'll have to think about that. Meantime, consider how one's sex life might unfold if neither partner needed validation from it. My vision of that is pretty awesome; yours may differ.
This makes me think of a scene I once encountered in a novel in which a man and woman just face each other naked, not touching themselves or each other, and the first one to orgasm is the "loser." I've actually been thinking about the concept of "no validation sex" lately and trying to figure out how that would be different from "stranger in the elevator" sex. I was wondering what I would ask the "stranger" for sexually if I felt free to ask for absolutely anything that I wanted. I don't know what this says about me but I decided that what I would really most want to say to the stranger would be "Surprise me." Clearly, I am not easy to please - lol.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
