MJontheMend- I have been advised you are the one to talk to on technical questions, if you read this would you be willing to email as I am not sure how in depth I should get on the BB - sunhappie at hotmail.com
A few posts back Crazy Eddie asked Why is it scheduled for bedtime during the week? I assume no one is living with you? You are correct no one lives with us. For months I had to get up at 6 AM to get my mom and take her for treatments by the time I returned home H was gone, meetings, golf (his number one love, I am number two but I am OK with that ;)) when he gets home it's dinner time and I guess kind of routine chit chat, we sit on the patio and I hate to give this up it is quality time plus we don't have many beautiful nights to seat outside
Cemar - Your not getting what I am driving at. Lets say that your desire for him is based upon his maintaining his physical body. But he maintains his physical body to win your desire (afterall, working out is not much fun). He works out, and works out, and works out, and you still don't desire him. If my desire is truly based on him working out, problem solved if he was working out. Where the problem comes in is a womens desire IMO is not based on one absolute thing but the whole pacakage. Also, I feel he should work out because he wants to and cares about his body not to gain my desire. Maybe we need to understand how often you need to keep your desire up? If you PHYSICALLY desire your husaband on MOST days, you are doing great. Most of us on here would KILL for that. But if you find that you are going for more than a couple of days and feeling no desire, then your going to have problems. So can you tell us more about the amount of time your NOT desiring him? This can be as up n down as a roller coaster, thus why I started posting, to journal, to get in sight, to try to see if there is a pattern and what is the trigger. I know my frequency is much better than most and maybe I don't belong on the SSM board but if I am not meeting H's HD am I not LD? But I will answer your question honestly, Mon. thru Thurs. is a drought, by Friday I am not really interested after the drought but I am aware of his needs and get into "just do it" mode, knowing that should do the trick. There are exceptions to this. We have occasionally gone for a week or two because I haven't been able to get to "just do it" mode... again, why I am here. I know sometimes it is triggered by PMS ( I'm sure you want to hear about that) and sometimes sheer physical & emotional exhaustion.
NJ- Texting did GREAT!! Kept the engines roaring! Thank you.
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. (Amy Bloom)
