I didn't really expect you to give me such a long and considered reply to what I though was me being just a tad whiny and ungrateful. It is interesting to hear that others feel the same way. Yes it would be fun to swap genders just to see. I have talked to my H in the past about the whole multi-orgasm thing and how it makes him feel and he has said that it makes him feel a bit jealous but also happy that he can do that kind of thing to me. It is very hard to describe what really goes on but I think the idea of a rollercoaster ride is about the closest I can get. You strap yourself in and off you go and the first little loop is pretty exciting and then the car keeps rattling along and you see another loop coming up and this ones looks better than the first - whee! Then round the corner and here comes the really big one - oh wow! Then after that there's a couple more little loops again just to bring you down gently from the high of the big one. The complete package from end to end is what you really want and there is a definite difference in feel to the "peak experience" and you know when you've had it. And when that all works properly and you get the last one you know it is the last one and you feel properly satisfied, with a grin that won't wipe itself off your face for the rest of the day.
So yeah the kiddy ride just doesn't cut it.
And as for not o'ing sometimes - yeah but not often. It used to be like that when I was in my 20s but then I guess I just got better and better at understanding what worked for me and what didn't so it has gone from say a 66% to 99% success rate. I guess if I was like BB and it was hard work always then I would most likely not get in the mood much. I can see that there would be little payoff and a lot of effort. I certainly do remember times before I really understood what worked when it all just seemed like so much jigging about and rubbing for not alot.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
