Have you gotten this info from a lawyer or are you just hypothesizing this from what you've heard?
If you don't want the D, then don't file. Period.
If she says it is going to happen, then let her make it happen.
As soon as she files, you can have your lawyer ready to go... get ready for it. Don't just hide under the covers in denial. Protect and prepare yourself, but don't do the hard work.
