Cemar - when you (one day) start to realize that the whole aspect of a R does not rely on equal amounts of give and take, then, and ONLY then will you begin to be able to help your situation.

You continue to sabotage your own R by being the one to not give a centimetre (let alone an inch) without being assured you will get at least that much (if not 10 fold) back from your W.

True love is unconditional - YES !!! And perhaps when you start acting on this, maybe, just maybe, you might get a different response from your W. However, IMHO, I personally can't see how she stands living with you

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)