I have not kept up much the last few days. Is there D papers Filed? Have there been any positives btw you and your W lately? Ya can't think of buying clothes for your girls as "I just do not like making life after our D easier for my W." I know it is hard but I'm sure you feel about your girls as I do about my son as they come first. Tell be about some positives in your sitch. Catch me up big guy
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Husband, W filed in june, and has money down on a new place. She is just waiting on me to refi so she can get off our mortgage and close on her new place.
I hear what you are saying about how I am looking at her spending. Yes, they are my girls and they do come before me. It is just that this whole sitch sucks and now I am tired from this ride.
Not a whole lot of positives to tell you about between my W and I. Though I have had a blast with my girls this summer. That is the only positive that I need.
I see my L next week and will be asking her to not hold up the D process and to do her best in getting me a fair settlement.
I wish I had better news for you about my M, but I do not.
Thanks for checking in and glad to see you back on these boards.
I still think that this is strange that she calls you that much. I know you are talking about the D or your girls, but if she really didn't want to be around you, why would she be doing this? I know your marriage seems pretty dim, but if anything is a positive, I would say this is.
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This means my 30th is coming up in a few weeks, will my D be final by then? I guess I have to wait and see.
Wow, the big 3-0. I'm right behind you. I am going to be 28 in two months. My D will be finalized by then. Looks like we are all getting this great D present for our b-days...you, me, my STBXH. My H's affair started the week before my b-day last year...I can't believe it's almost been a year already.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
I still think that this is strange that she calls you that much.
I do not know what to think about what she does anymore. I used to think she could never do what she has done, but she went and had an A. I guess this guy is worth more then our last ten years and family. I do find it sad that she can throw away our history so easily and bring this pain on to our girls. I can really careless about myself, I will be fine, just don't mess with my little ladies. They do not deserve the mess their mommy is going to put them through. I just hope and pray that I can be the solid parent for them that they deserve. They need a good parent to look up to not an adulturous who is willing to sacrafice everything for some fantasy that will not play out(OK I am a little bitter right now).
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Wow, the big 3-0.
Yeah.....30 is really the least of my worries at this point.
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Looks like we are all getting this great D present for our b-days...you, me, my STBXH.
My W's birthday present to me is her moving out of our house and who knows maybe our M will be over on the same day. Seriously, she is actually scheduled to move out on my birthday. Talk about ironic. I have never really cared to much about recieving gifts but this one will hurt. Maybe I will just plan an evening with my girls while she moves out. Hanging out with them is the greatest present I can think of.
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My H's affair started the week before my b-day last year...
Not that they care about anybody else, but, when you put everything together you see how selfish they have become because of the OP. My W instead of being at the spa with her sisters the day before her one sister got married was in the OM hotel room. You would think that pampering her sister would be her only concern...no, she needed to be with a$$h*!e instead.
Oh Scott, I sooo feel the way you do at the moment. I have 2 little girls and think "I'll be fine, but the girls will hurt and always be missing one of us" if we divorce/even separate. I can't believe H is so far gone that he doesn't care about this either. My girls, oh my girls. I don't deserve to be away from them for just one night, they shouldn't have to miss me at all. Now, I am thinking (er, obsessing) ahead because we are still living under the same roof, but I need to grasp in my head this might be a reality.
You can be the solid parent your girls need. If anything, this horrible situation has made you a better parent, more aware of their feelings and putting them first more than ever. Innocent faces..innocent questions..innocent everything. SO hard.
My girls are my biggest concern in all of this mess. My W believes that they are for her as well. I really do not see how they are her number 1 priority while caring on in an adulterous relationship and filing for D. If my girls truly are her biggest concern you would think that she would try and keep our family intact. But that has yet to happen.
I am going to miss not seeing my DD's everyday. Not being apart of all the little things that go on in their lives will be hard. Instead of hearing my girls yell out "Daddy" and come running to me when I get home, I will be coming home to an empty house. That might be the hardest for me. I love my girls and will make sure that I am as much apart of their daily lives as I can.
You are right this sitch has made me a better parent. Not that I wasn't a good parent before all this, I no longer have to walk on egg shells with my W. It is amazing how much time and energy I put in trying to keep my W happy and now that I am not I have more time to focus on my girls.
Yes, they are innocent and do not deserve this. I love watching them laugh, play, and be care free like they deserve to be. It saddens me to think that my W might take that away from them.
You did not lie about you being able to turn heads....My D5 would dig your cowboy hat, she always tells me she is going to be a cowgirl when she gets older. Unfortunately for her her daddy does not own a farm.
I have no idea. I agree he is not trading up. From what we learned here on the boards she is pretty amazing and now from what I see a hottie. I think her H might need to be committed.
