I need to update

[COG]

AmyC,

Sounds pretty bad, doom and gloom. But things can always be worse. Your long term goals, or lack thereof, reflect more of the same.

My mother said I need to file so I can find a new man to "take care of" me.

Oh Yuk! That just sounds creepy. You don't need a man because YOU CAN! Don't take failure lying down, get up and kick some ass. Set your goals high, and start making plans. That's how success works, first you have to have a vision.

If $10.00 an hour is all that a legal assistant makes then a good long term goal would be to pick a profession, career, job, whatever that pays MORE, and start making baby steps towards that goal. Long term goal to become a ?????. Don't pick something that only pays $10.00 per hour, pick something better. Write it down, and go for it!

My only goal is to survive and keep S14 fed for the NEXT 2 weeks and get him ready to go back to school.

That's a great short term goal AmyC, but you know that's not the question I was asking. You need some long term goals. Career, relationship, etc. Write some down.

If you believe your H is the same quasi alchoholic, limp noodle father, and sometimes demeaning H as I've heard you describe him sometimes, then honestly why not file? Has HE changed? Has HE grown? Is HE worth waiting for?

Nobody is going to save you AmyC, you're on your own. You can do this, I know you can, the only thing you lack is faith and confidence. I've seen your fire and you can be successfull, make more money, and maybe even save your M. But it's up to YOU. Take the first step. Do something positive, set some career goals, and start moving forward to a new life.

Love you AmyC!

COG