But I do not dismiss her issues. I appreciate what she does fo our family. But how does this relate to the fact that she is not putting any deposits in my love bank? Are you trying to say that I should count her cleaning the bathroom as a replacement for passion?
From seeing that there are things you can choose to do whether she chooses to do anything right now or not. From seeing that your choices are yours to make and don't have to depend on what your wife chooses to do at this moment There are choices that can be made. THe real question is which ones can actually make my situation better. Not sure I can find one of those. So YOU are putting conditions on YOUR stopping of the blame game. You will only stop if SHE stops and if she stops at the time. Those are big conditions. So I should act unconditionally towards her, and she is allowed to act conditionally towards me?
