I said nothing about Heimlich's actions being right or wrong during that period. No doubt W has a responsibility to set and enforce her own boundaries regarding sex. It certainly sounds as though she was not handling that responsibility. It also sounds as though she is trying to work on those boundaries now, so she seems to be making some progress. Hopefully, Heimlich can do a better job of respecting those boundaries now that she is stating them more clearly.
But none of this is here nor there when it comes to understanding, acknowledging, and validating W's feelings. All of this right/wrong blame game stuff is focused on arguing that she should not have felt them, which helps no one.
