Understand what 'immune' means. Immune means you are the captain of your own ship. It does not mean you don't listen when the guy in the crow's nest tells you there's an iceburg in front of you.
Immune measures susceptibility. If I get chicken pox once, the odds are 99.9% certain that I will not get chicken pox again. I am now immune to it.
That does not mean that I do not have empathy for those who do catch it, and for their suffering. It does not mean that I now take my children who do have it around other people who are NOT immune to it.
Back to the captain and his/her ship. Let's say my guy in the crow's nest is busy telling me how great a captain I am... and in so doing, doesn't see the iceburg ahead. Is his/her job to validate me, or be on the look out? How about timing? Is it wrong for this person to validate me, or is there a time and place for everything?
Or... let's say, conversely, the guy is up there in the crow's nest, and he decides he needs to tell me what a crappy captain I am.
As captain of my ship, I don't NEED him telling me what he thinks or doesn't think of my captaining skills. I need him to be the best person for the crow's nest job. If he can't do it, get out of there, I'll put someone up there who can do it. You don't like my job as captain, find another boat.
There is a difference between exchanging and discerning information (communication), and throwing value judgments (good or bad) at one another. I am not suggesting that people be immune to the exchange/discernment of information. I am saying that as captain of your ship, you need to operate with a certain level of judgment immunity in order to effectively navigate your ship.
I'm not saying as captain of a ship, it doesn't feel good to hear that your crew thinks your a great captain... or that, they thought you sucked...
Immunity to value judgments allows you to sift through information and compare it to your own, without letting your feelings cloud your actions or responses.
It doesn't mean we should aspire to be robots. It means you get to decide at any given point what feelings YOU have DECIDED to let come through, at any given moment.
No one can make you happy/sad/angry/glad, whatever, without your permission. Whether you give that permission consciously or unconsciously is something else.
