Dom a bit jaded are we? Well all good advice from you and I appreciate your input.
No I do not think she's trying to manipulate me with the sep agreement. We've talked about it a lot and I readily admit I am the biggest reason it's not done. I've ignored it, gotten angry about it and all because I don't want a divorce. It's time for me to step up and accept everything that is happening and has happened in our lives. An early step in the healing process is getting this done.
As for the OM, well I just have to trust her about it. I still have a lot of reservations about it. They probably text every 3 or so days. He almost always initiates them. It appears phone calls are limited to a couple a month. She told me last night he moved to FL with his girl friend and I got some initial confirmation on that today. But I suspect some form of EA even if she doesn't see it that way.
Bottom line here, I can go with the flow a bit, offer it some gentle nudges here and there, be friendly, nice and show love. If it's meant to be then we'll be friends again and more. Right now I have nothing left to loose other than the possibilities of reconciliation. As Michele says, you have to make sure you have tried everything otherwise regret will always haunt you. As for my wife I can see she believes this a bit and that's why she's still around. Also she still around because deep inside her there is at least part of her that wants this to work out. She's said she's open to reconciliation and even would like to think we can. That's all I need to hear and going forward we both need to see action.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
