Burn Notice

[Kettricken]

I really like Chrome's take on this, the "numbers game" illustration. I think the key is having your "base number" up high enough that nobody's opinion matters *more* than yours ... but that's a far cry from being completely immune.

If I love something someone has done, either for themselves or for me ... maybe this is narcissistic, but I *want* my compliment to matter to them, make them feel even better. Conversely, if they've really pissed me off or are doing something harmful or dangerous to themselves or others, I want them to at least *consider* what I say. Being totally immune to other's input implies that we always think our own judgement is best. Ultimately it's our own judgement we have to use and live with, but that doesn't mean we can't gain/grow from outside input, positive or negative. Isn't that the point of being differentiated? that we are secure enough in our basic sense of self to be able to truly accept the opinions of others? Literally, for what they're worth ... not more *or* less.

I can use a mirror, but I'd still like to be told when I have spinach in my teeth.

I can use a mirror, but it's still nice to hear that my cleavage is likely to cause traffic accidents.