Nomopo's Sitch - Patience, Patience, Patience

[Nomopo]

Thanks for the confirmation H!

CVA - liked what you posted to me on your thread, so copying it here:

You are a compassionate but yes, intense guy no matter how many smiley faces you plop in here [. . .] that guy, who was not a competitive tennis player for no reason, can be intimidating to that sweet 5' something woman you married, regardless of how you feel inside. That is how the outside world probably sees you, not to say it is bad, just be aware.

Thanks.

Puddle,

You can't be afraid or it won't really work.

It sounds like you've reached a good new place. I might say that if you're afraid (or acting from a place of fear---who isn't afraid here?), then it's not really working *for you.* And the results of that can't be the best.

Well put.

I feel like I see the path that I'm going down laid out here by you. I'm not there yet, but it's helpful to have an idea of what's coming, and I appreciate your example of handling it beautifully.

Thank you. If you want, I will mail you copies of my first seven threads for some light reading. The 8th and this (the 9th) are still available here.

Hi again bar!

GD!!! Great to see you back bud. How you feeling? Thanks for the support/comments.

Have you checked out that book I mentioned (Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends) by Bruce Fisher that has that section in the appendix titled, "The Healing Separation"? Hope you find it -- really good stuff in that appendix!

Not yet, but it's on my to buy list.

Thanks for the confirmation H!

CVA - liked what you posted to me on your thread, so copying it here:

You are a compassionate but yes, intense guy no matter how many smiley faces you plop in here [. . .] that guy, who was not a competitive tennis player for no reason, can be intimidating to that sweet 5' something woman you married, regardless of how you feel inside. That is how the outside world probably sees you, not to say it is bad, just be aware.

Thanks.

Puddle,

You can't be afraid or it won't really work.

It sounds like you've reached a good new place. I might say that if you're afraid (or acting from a place of fear---who isn't afraid here?), then it's not really working *for you.* And the results of that can't be the best.

Well put.

I feel like I see the path that I'm going down laid out here by you. I'm not there yet, but it's helpful to have an idea of what's coming, and I appreciate your example of handling it beautifully.

Thank you. If you want, I will mail you copies of my first seven threads for some light reading. The 8th and this (the 9th) are still available here.

Hi again bar!

GD!!! Great to see you back bud. How you feeling?

You can't be afraid or it won't really work.

No truer words have been written about lovingly detaching.[/quote]

I think so too. So it takes time.

Nomo <--- a few extras for CVA!