24, W and I didnt communicate to much during the work day since she had to take D to do a speech evaluation. W came home from work and we talked for a bit. W put D to bed and I began my course review. Approx 20 mins later, W started to discuss about D's evaluation and the program D may possible get into. At first, I keep on listening to the course then I put it on paused and moved the notebook away from me so I can give W all of my attention.
I read the handout W was given and I did liked the program. We talked for a bit about rearing D and assisting her with her speech. Sometimes I think that we speak so civilize and the tone of W's voice is so calm that we should just kiss and begin the healing process. But again, we are both hurt and I dont know when W will give in but I remain patient.
I went to get my pillow and sheet and bid W goodnight. W was on the phone with someone and about 30 mins later she came and check to see if I was asleep. I wasnt fully asleep but then I heard she didnt close the room door. This is another victory since W is keeping the room door open more often and I dont feel so secluded anymore.
Something is definately happening but again I must remain patient.
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
24, I called W on her lunch and made her LOL. This is good since I am allowed to call her but not blast her phone with multiple calls. I told her I will call her again today on her lunch break and advised her if she dont need to be outside for any reason today she should not. It is extremely hot and the high should be 103 degrees. So I gave her lunch money since we normally dont keep cash but I had some.
Besides that all went good. We talked some more about D and getting her into a new pre-K. Later, I was invited into the bedroom and stayed in there with W for an 1 1/2 hr. It was a major accomplishedment since W normally dont ask me to stay in the bedroom with her and she didnt even called EA.
I bid W goodnight and we went to our separate beds. I woke W early this morning since she needs to go get her books for the Fall semester. We dont discuss the R as I think its too early to do so, I am doing the "AS-IF" attitude and I see myself agreeing a lot more with W than before.
I let W have an opinion in most if not everything. I look forward to the weekend. Again, I dont know where this is going.
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
Doing step 4 of DR, still an update from previous 24 - W said she wanted a haircut. Last weekend, I mentioned to W that she needed a haircut. W said EA does likes her hair that way. So I didnt go into details. W hinted someone is getting paid this weekend and she would love to get her haircut. I said I can do that!!! Aww, the luxury of H getting his wishes come true and EA opinion doesnt matter.
I will pamper W over this weekend!!! Little steps into the right direction. W is even parking in my carport now after I told her she can park there now eventhough she rebutted but I parkelse where.
Taking DR steps slowly....
Last edited by MissingMyHoney; 08/15/0704:25 PM.
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
HI! I think many of us don't know where it's going. But we have to carry on and take what rewards/comfort we can. Ultimately you are becoming an attractive, strong man - hey, what every woman wants. I've learned, in my situation, not to get too excited over babysteps but it's all part of my learning curve.
That is a for sure good sign that she values your opinion on her looks!! Otherwise if she did not care she wouldn't change a thing & its all for you! Now after she gets the new dew you can continue w/ the compliments. I am woman can not get enough compliments to up my self esteem!
TY chicki, I will do as you say. 24, nothing really has change 'cept that W left the bedroom door open and didnt called EA at all lastnight. Good sign here, W is looking forward to her Fall semester. I know we will spend a lot of time together soon since myself is taking a course and my other course load will begin in October. Hopefully, W doesnt move out then.
Keeping patience!
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
Still pondering whether I should go out with friends and do social events. W would think Im with OW and will not trust me. Trusting was one of the R problems therefore I stay at home eventhough I would like to go out.
Any thoughts?
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
if she is thinking your with OW, then invite her and call or tet while your out to say you were thinking of her. Maybe even offer to bring her some food while your out? You can't stay at home always just because she doesn't trust you, that will backfire. My H is doing that now, and it drives me nuts that he is always at home. I know I know, damned if you do, damned if you don't. Pick the poison that you will enjoy the most.
