When's it my turn?

[SDFoundGirl]

Got back from our trip laaaate last night. All in all, it was really great. A MUCH different way to spend our anniversary than a year ago. The place was fabulous! It's a farmhouse B & B on the ocean. H and I stayed in a cabin on the hillside that gave *us* a great view, but no one else could see or find. Huge deck, jacuzzi, outdoor waterbed, pine trees, ocean waves....ahhh. A really, really amazing place.

Two DB related things came up on this trip:

1. For whatever reason, I want to prove H wrong on like everything...well, actually, mostly little stuff. It's my next goal--let go of that competition and the need to be right. I figured this out while we were out hiking...the work is never done.

2. H has a hard time really LISTENING to other people, not just me. He actually snapped at me when, after the 5th time saying something to him, I put a little emphasis in my voice. I just cried...and then we talked it out. I told him about how frustrated I get when he doesn't listen to what I say and either tunes it out completely OR decides I actually mean something else. The latter drives me NUTS...because I'm an incredibly direct person. I say what I mean. Anyway, H told me, "That's just me, that's how I do things. I don't know how to change."

And on the inside, I wanted to scream at him, "What the f*ck do you think *I* had to do?" But I didn't. I told him that I realized I have to change how I feel about what he does, but that if he does want to change that habit (because he does it to everyone), he can just by being conscious of it and starting to recognize when it happens. No lingering drama after that...great make up sex and a continued good time.

So, all in all it went well.

SD