Trying to set those goals!

[Trixi]

Aren't I, in effect, basically *showing* him that I will always be there if I let him see me? Regardless of what I say?

If I were to say to him "If you date other people, you will see a lot less of me", that won't phase him--that is what he is trying to get anyway. Dom, I feel horrible for "arguing" with you; I really don't mean to--I just am having the hardest time wrapping my brain around all of this.

I think that he's still interested in you, but at the same time, testing out pulling away. When you dont stand up for yourself, I think he takes that as validation for him pulling away becuase you're "not strong", and not showing him boundaries.

What kind of boundaries can I possibly set on someone that doesn't live with me and wants to consider us completely and totally separated? I already told him that I won't be part of a harem and he would have to date and court only me to get back with me. I am now not letting him even give me a kiss on the lips. How else can I stand up for myself? And now he has told me that he doesn't think we should "date"; that he doesn't want to date anyone else, he only thinks of dating me--but he doesn't want to do that because he wants to feel completely separated. WTF?