As you said, we have created an endless blame game. So lets stop that. No more blame game. THis goes for BOTH spouses. Each spouse will have to meet the others needs irregardless of what the other does. How can this be done? Neither will go first, they will go at the same time.
Cemar I think you need to say this to your wife.
But what is wrong with going first?
Are you here to get help or just vent frustrations? I think if you let the people here know that you just want to vent that would be OK and we wouldn't get as frustrated with you if we knew you really didn't want advice. Kind of the way we talk about "females" and that when we talk to our H's we don't necessarily want them to solve our problems we just want them to listen.
I am short on time, I will answer your questions later.
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. (Amy Bloom)
