Hi 99 - Wow your story is kind of like mine. My H had a knee jerk reaction after a fight. Said we needed to divorce and that he just didn't think we were a match. That he wasn't "In love with me". Four days later he moved out, got an apt for 6 months. Same - the common fights no yelling or screaming. Always very happy & loving with me. Brings me coffee every morning, we'd talked 2 -4 times during the day. We cooked together, envolved in our church. Great spontanious love life - always good to me. No major problems and now this! I can relate - No friends with bennies! He hasn't even tried - we just hug. We've had dinner a few times/ lunch. So confusing - hang in there. I have I guess a date with him next week. I'm praying he'll have an awakening! Blessings!
I read another post of yours; I think you are actually in pretty good shape since he is still wearing his ring, etc. Mine took his off the day we had the big talk about separating. I am sort of curious, though, about one thing. I can see someone saying something stupid or knee-jerk'ish while drunk and fighting. The part that strikes me as odd is that he then went out, looked for an apartment and signed a lease. Presumably, by then, he was sober and thinking clearly. So, there must have been much more to this story.
Anyway, I think you need to start your own thread, tell your story and ask for input-- I'm afraid your questions are getting buried (and missed) because they are sandwiched in other peoples' threads. Just copy and paste.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
