vacation is over, I am leaving

[stewart10]

Nothing really happened, the first week was great, 2nd things changed, he wasn't as loving, he said he sought her out 4 weeks or so ago...he thought by going on vacation it would help but didn't.
he went out for a walk over an hour ago and is not back, so I am sure has gone to her

I am sorry. How could going on the vacation help if he sought her out before the vacation. He obviously was not putting forth the effort to make things better if he had her in the back of his mind the whole time. Don't start to wonder what he is doing. You don't know for sure what he is doing, and even if he is with her, it does not change anything. You can't control what he does. He has apparently made his decision. The only thing you can do is improve yourself and make him realize what he is missing out on. I know, easier said than done. It always is easier to give advice than it is to take your own. I have problems with this myself.