CVA - I was thinking about you and your sitch this morning. Part of me feels like you need to take a month or two, and not force anything. You need to give W all the time and space and independence she (and you) can stand. Do not jeopardize your relats with your kids, but other than that spend 4 - 8 weeks really focusing/working on you. That is one of the beauties of the DB program. While you stop the chase, you focus on you (your issues too) and GAL. I think this approach would be good for you, your W and as a result your sitch. I still get the sense you are forcing things. This is hard for you. A 180 in fact. You are used to forcing things in your profession and that is why you are so successful. But your W and your M/R are not another work project. It's different. Ask yourself this: what could it hurt? What is the downside? What risk? It might even draw her closer. It might let her miss you. Just think about it. Maybe ask your (our) C.

FWIW,
Nomo \:\)

PS - I think this was prompted by me reading and thinking about your phone call with W last night about seeing your new C. Even in reading your description I felt the intensity, and pressure. I suspect W felt it too. Those emotions on your side, and her reactive emotions to that, will have to subside (if I am right that they are there).

M 39
W 39
M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs
S7 D4
Bomb 5-8-05
W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22
DB 4-10
S 6-11
No more C
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