His text is a strong indication that the court date is a wake up call for some soul searching-FINALLY! Don't count on him actually finding his soul.
I've learned to not count on anything. I do believe that the court date might be the first dose of reality that he has dealt with for months. The countdown is ticking...he's got two weeks to do something...otherwise we are done.
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If you want you can let him go and fix his own life or screw it up.
I've accepted this. He is a grown man and he is going to make his own choices...obviously. We don't have kids to worry about and I can't live like this anymore.
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The alternative for you would be to continue DBing and give him unconditional love and support.
This is not an alternative for me anymore. I gave it my all for 9 months now, and I can't do it anymore. I need to move on with my life.
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I hope to handle my impending D as you have, with a calm loving attitude ready for forgiveness but on a condition of strength.
Thank you. I really appreciate your kind words. I offered my H forgiveness and a second chance, but there becomes a time when enough is enough. He has not changed or helped anything during our separation. He would have continued to live like this as long as I would have tolerated it. I'm not keeping a family together....it's just me and I'm tired and done. A lot of H's and my problems stemmed from not being able to get pregnant and that is one problem that is not fixable. He's got two weeks to convince me that he wants to change...if not this marriage will be over...I've done all I can.
